(Coping
with Grief and loss)
Family members were at home during the
pandemic and enjoying as family.Couples stayed at home with love but sometimes
with friction. Marriage encounter weekend programmestopped due to pandemic and
the continuous lockdown even the message of keeping distance. Is there any
possibilityof couple to keep distance? The corona virus made couples to keep
physical distance and relationships too. The loss of beloved ones at home rally
made us to grief. You know very well the loss of loved oneshurts very much in
our families. Still there is hope for overcoming our sorrows and loss of pain
with help of relatives and friends.
Sudden loss is shocking and difficult to
comprehend:I would like to
narrate about two persons lives that caused pain and sorrow, first one is my
elder brother and other person my priest friend. Both of them died on the road
accidents. Recently l lostmy elder brother on the road accident.This was
unexpected situation at home. It was very difficult for us to accept that he is
no more with our family. He was taking care and looked after everything at home. We loved him verymuch whenever there were
holidays and important celebrations he would arrange it well to our
expectations. People loved him very much because he was very kind to many
people. When I was in grief my relatives supported me with consolations words
and friends helped to overcome the financial situation at home. It gave me
great hope that showed that they really love for me and my family. Through own
suffering and disappointments need to cope up the lives.
Another incident that shook me very much of my
friend and companion priest met with an accident. I could not imagine my own way
and unable to accept his demise. He was good friend of me and we used to share
lot of things about our spiritual life and other matters. In the last weekend
before his death I got opportunity to be with him a day. The last personsaw as companion and dinner with him. It recalled
the event of passion, the last supper with him as Jesus left for crucifixion,
he shed blood on the road ways. I cried myself when I lost my friend. He was
with great hope of doing different things and led the college to another level
but God had taken away in His abode before his dream could be real. My
companions brought consolationto me and comforted myself.
Need time and space to
mourn:The loss of
loved ones its great pain but god is there for us to console and to comfort us.
The pandemic taken away family members
and friends. It’s a sad part of our lives but need to console ourselves and to
move forward.
Guidelines
for Coping with Grief and Loss
• Accept your
feelings and Cry out
• Talk about
your loss and be part of the community
• Reflect on
your strengths and focus on things within your control
• Know what
resources are available and ask for help
Fr. Arulkumar
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